Wednesday, July 15, 2009
Determine to guard your mate's secrets (unless they are dangerous to them or to you) and to pray for them. Talk with your spouse, and resolve to demonstrate love in spite of these issues. Really listen to them when they share personal thoughts and struggles with you. Make them feel safe.
How much of an effort is it for you to hold back from saying something, critical or otherwise? What have you learned about your spouse today, simply from listening?
Kyle and I don't have any real secrets, but if we did, I would definitely feel safe sharing with him and him with me. We trust each other wholeheartedly. I have no doubt that we are each others comfort in good times and bad times and we can lean on each other for everything.
I've obviously taken a LOT more than 40 days to do this Love Dare. I wish I hadn't, but that's just how it's been.
So, now I'm updating from Day 16 (and 17) and will hopefully be able to keep it going and flowing along till it's complete. But, it is summer, so we'll see how that goes.
If it's been awhile since I've updated, feel free to give me a little reminder and light a fire under my bum. I won't mind.
Begin praying today for your spouse's heart. Pray for three specific areas where you desire for God to work in your spouse's life and in your marriage.
Have you experienced the power of prayer in the past? What did you choose to pray about? Was it easy for you, or did it feel foreign to you?
I thought about keeping the areas I'm praying for private, but what the heck, I'll put them out there.
1. That Kyle would "lead" our family in a way that is pleasing to God.
Not that he doesn't, but there's always room for improvement.
2. That he would stop being so judgmental about people and their looks or background.
This one bothers me a lot. And I know a lot of it has to do with his upbringing.
3. That he would know God on a deeper level.
Both of us need to work on this. We don't pray together and I feel like there are times where just looking at us or being around us, you wouldn't know that we're Christians and that bothers me, too.
Hopefully in praying for these areas for Kyle, it will affect me too.