Major Malfunction!

If you come upon a post and wonder why there's a weird black box with an exclamation mark in it, you may want to read this post to find out what has gone wrong. Still trying to figure out how to fix it all, without having to do each post manually. Until then, the black boxes remain. I thank you for your understanding. If you know someone that can help me, PLEASE send them my way!

Wednesday, April 29, 2009

Day 14: Love Takes Delight

The Dare:

Purposefully neglect an activity you would normally do so you can spend quality time with your spouse. Do something he or she would love to do or a project they'd really like to work on. Just be together.

The Questions:

What did you decide to give up? What did you do together? How did it go? What new thing did you learn (or relearn) about your spouse?

My Thoughts:

Well, as I mentioned before, this one has taken me awhile to do. But, I got to thinking about it and I think I've already done it without "purposefully" doing it. So does that mean I'm cheating? Depends on how you look at it, but I really don't think so.

So, what did we do?

We "got it on". LOL

There have been a couple instances recently when I would rather sit on the computer instead of having sex, but because Kyle wanted to, I did. And of course, it's always good to connect / reconnect that way.


And that's all I'm gonna say about that.

Moving on.

Day 15 coming soon.

Tuesday, April 28, 2009

I Haven't Forgotten

I know it seems like I go a long time between posts here. But this next dare isn't easy to figure out! So I'm thinking I may have to skip it and come back to it or something. In the mean time, I just wanted to let you know that I'm still here and will be back with an update soon.

OH! And I think Kyle found my Love Dare book! I want to ring his neck!

We have a computer armoir and in the cabinets above the computer, I stashed all my books. Well, Kyle decided to stash a binder thing in there and when I opened the cabinet the other day, I noticed that the book wasn't tucked into the other books like I had left it. I have it so that the spine faces the back wall of the armoir and it still was, but it was sticking out from the other books. Grrrr!!! SO, I'm not going to say anything to him about it because I still want to pretend that he doesn't know about it. BUT at the same time, I think it may have done something in his mind because he's acting a bit differently. Hmmmm.......this'll be interesting.

Friday, April 17, 2009

Day 13: Love Fights Fair

The Dare:

Talk with your spouse about establishing healthy rules of engagement. If your mate is not ready for this, then write out your own personal rules to "fight" by. Resolve to abide by them when the next disagreement occurs.

The Questions:

If your spouse participated with you, what was their response? What rules did you write for yourself?

My Thoughts:
  • Don't bring up the past
  • No name calling
  • No "D" word ever to be used
  • Speak calmly
  • No unloving physical touch
  • No fighting in public
  • Resolve issue before going to bed
Kyle wasn't involved in making this list because I knew I would likely get a similar reaction as I did the last time I asked him to help me out with some questions.

We rarely fight. I can count on one hand the blow out fights we've had. We bicker and argue, but fighting is not a common occurrence with us, thankfully.

Hopefully one day we can have this discussion because it would certainly be a good one to have...for future reference.

Monday, April 6, 2009

Day 12: Love Let's The Other Win

The Dare:

Demonstrate love by willingly choosing to give into an area of disagreement between you and your spouse. Tell them you are putting their preference first.

The Questions:

What issue did you choose? What did giving in cost you? How will this help you in the future?

My Thoughts:

Since we're right in the middle of house projects this was a pretty simple way for me to find something to let Kyle win.

Our living room is painted a color called Saddle Tan or something like that. Our entry way and hallway are white.

Because Kyle painted the new banister a cream color, it blends into the wall and he doesn't like it. He's been asking me about painting the living room another color and then also the entry way and hallway the same color. But I like the color of our living room, plus I don't want to deal with paint splatter everywhere and taking things off the walls, etc.

So I told Kyle he could paint the entry way and hallway if it was the same color the living room currently is. He was surprised since I've been pretty adamant about leaving them white. He asked me if I thought it would be too dark, which I do, but I told him I can hope not.

It's not really that big of a deal for him to paint the hallway and entry way. I figure if it makes him happy then that's fine. It's just paint.

Sunday, April 5, 2009

Day 11: Love Cherishes

The Dare:

What need does your spouse have that you could meet today? Can you run an errand? Give a back rub or foot massage? Is there housework you could help with? Choose a gesture that says, "I cherish you" and do it with a smile.

The Questions:

What did you choose to show that you cherish your mate? What did you learn from this experience?

My Thoughts:

Kyle some how hurt his shoulder. It's really bothering him and because we don't have insurance right now he hasn't been able to just jump in the car and go to the doctor. So I've given him a couple back / shoulder massages to help ease the pain a bit.

I don't give him massages often because 1) my arms are a lot weaker than they used to be so I tire more easily than I used to and 2) I'm a brat and think that because it's not going to {usually be} reciprocated that I don't need to.

I need to change my attitude though. He works hard, manual labor and I know that the massages help him to feel better. I know I don't like to be in pain and I know that he is most of the time.

One more thing to work on.