Talk with your spouse about establishing healthy rules of engagement. If your mate is not ready for this, then write out your own personal rules to "fight" by. Resolve to abide by them when the next disagreement occurs.
If your spouse participated with you, what was their response? What rules did you write for yourself?
- Don't bring up the past
- No name calling
- No "D" word ever to be used
- Speak calmly
- No unloving physical touch
- No fighting in public
- Resolve issue before going to bed
We rarely fight. I can count on one hand the blow out fights we've had. We bicker and argue, but fighting is not a common occurrence with us, thankfully.
Hopefully one day we can have this discussion because it would certainly be a good one to have...for future reference.