Monday, February 23, 2009
Day 5: Love is Not Rude
Ask your spouse to tell you three things that cause him or her to be uncomfortable or irritated with you. You must do so without attacking them or justifying your behavior. This is from their perspective only.
What things did your spouse point out about you that need your attention? How did you handle hearing it? What do you plan to do to improve these areas?
If you saw my post before this one you'll know that this one was difficult for me.
This afternoon when Kyle called me, I said to him: "Here is a random question for you. Please just think about it and give me an answer later." He said "dumb" before I even asked him. So then I asked him the above question. He said "dumb". I said, "Please just think about. I need an answer."
That was the end of the conversation.
I got home a little bit ago and I asked him if he had a chance to think about it. He said no. Then he said, "Actually, what really irritates me is when you ask me a bunch of dumb questions." I just stared at him. Didn't say anything. He said, "Don't eye f*ck me." Which is a phrase he's been using a lot lately and which I can NOT stand! It was all I could do to not say anything or burst into tears.
So, I guess I'm just going to move on to Day 6 because I'm obviously not going to get an answer out of him. If God decides to work on his heart and have him answer me later, fine, but I'm just going to let this one go. He's really hurting my heart lately and I'm not really sure what to do about it.