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Saturday, March 14, 2009

Day 8: Love Is Not Jealous

The Dare:

Determine to become your spouse's biggest fan and to reject any thoughts of jealousy. To help you set your heat on your spouse and focus on their achievements, take yesterday's list of negative attributes and discreetly burn it. Then share with your spouse how glad you are about a success he or she recently enjoyed.

The Questions:

How hard was it to destroy the list? What are some positive experiences that you can celebrate in the life of your mate? How can you encourage them toward future success?

My Thoughts:

I didn't burn the list, but I shredded it to a million little pieces. I had no trouble doing so either. I didn't even look at the list again before completing the task because I didn't think I needed to review the negative feelings I had been having towards him. I love him and I want to work on all the positive feelings I have for him.

Kyle has been trying to get some packet type stuff together to give to clients with their bids. He's been asking me to do it, but really, I have had no idea what it was that he was wanting to include in it. Because I'm not the one actually out there doing the work and whatnot it has really just been frustrating for me to try to figure out what he's wanting. Especially because he didn't really know what it was he wanted to include either.

So, shortly after I read this dare, he came to me with some stuff he had put together. It was REALLY good and a LOT better than anything I would've been able to come up with. I'm sure it's because I've just been on the brink of tears lately, but reading what he wrote almost made me teary too. And it wasn't the words he wrote, because it's all about construction stuff. That's not mushy by any means. LOL But it was just that he had put so much time and effort into trying to make this the best he possibly could and the fact that it was REALLY AWESOME. I was {am} SO proud of him.

I told him right after I read it that it was REALLY GOOD and that he did a GREAT job. He just gave me the look that he normally does when I've complimented him. It's kind of a goofy look. There's not much expression to it. He just kind of gets wider eyes and lifts his eyebrows. But I can tell that it makes him feel good.

Over the next few days he continued to put together more for this packet and it's pretty impressive if I do say so myself. He's never done anything like this but they're trying to make clients see them more than two "kids" out there doing some work. They're trying to have a more polished, professional look. I'm just really proud of what he's doing. And while I haven't said those words to him, I know I will. But he knows I'm proud of him from the conversation we had above.

The other day while I was sitting here entering 300 something giveaways for The Secrets in the Sauce Spring Fling, Kyle decided to clean up this room. It's a disaster. I have my The Love Dare book hidden in a little cupboard on our desk. For whatever reason, he decided to OPEN it! Ahhh! I grabbed it out of his hands and SAT on it! LOL He kept asking me what it was and I said it's a secret. He said that we don't have secrets. I told him I knew that but that this was a good secret. He wanted to know what it was. I told him that he can't know right now. It was a humorous conversation. I kept saying to him "Just! Just! just! JUST!" As in JUST leave it alone and some day you will know, but NOT RIGHT NOW! I didn't know what else to say because I really don't want him to know about it. He'll question everything I'm doing and I don't want it to be weird. With him not knowing about it, I can do it on my own time without him wondering about my motives. I want to see what's going to happen in our marriage with me doing this and him not knowing about it.

I've noticed that he's reacting to me differently. He's saying thanks for dinner every night and being a bit more loving.


  1. Yay! It's working! ;-) So funny that you battled over the book. I hope you moved your hiding space!!

  2. I loved the movie and bought the book "The Love Dare." Haven't really started it yet. I keep waiting for a 'rocky' period but I can see that it would strengthen even a marriage that is already good. Love this blog! Stopping by from SITS....

  3. How cool that you are blogging this!!!!
    This is such a great thing for couples to do, my husband and I bought the book after seeing the movie. Both are wonderful.